Is Praying for Yourself Selfish?

I used to think that praying for myself was selfish because I didn’t want to put my desires in the spotlight. I would often ignore praying for myself altogether, but when I would pray for myself, I’d feel guilty about it.

Then I started to wonder: Am I missing something?

There are multiple accounts of Jesus praying for Himself before His crucifixion. In Luke 22:42, He cries, “Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done.”

Was Jesus being selfish?

He asked for another way to save His people if possible, but ultimately He desired the will of the Father above His own comfort and security.

Jesus shows us how to align our hearts with the Father in prayer – even prayers for ourselves. Seeking God’s will first is not selfish.

Through this passage and others, I have learned that I can (and should!) pray for myself – in a Christ adoring, gospel centered way! Here are some ways I pray for myself (in no particular order).



Help me to hate sin.

Help me to love righteousness.

Help me to guard my mind.

Help me to believe truth.

Help me to execute spiritual disciplines.

Help me to pray without ceasing – even when life is good.

Help me to praise You at all times – even in trials.

Help me to seek FIRST Your will, Your kingdom, and Your glory.

Provide what I need, no more and no less.

Help me to lean on You.

Help me to stay focused on You and not get distracted by temptation from the world, the flesh, and the devil.

Help me to speak truth in love.

Help me to love others abundantly.

Forgive me and help me to forgive others.

Help me to know that Your word is living and active.

Help me to speak encouraging words to others.

Help me to serve joyfully.

Make more of You and less of me in my life.

Help me to share truth.

Help me to be generous with my time and resources.

Help me to have discernment.

Help me to want You above all else.

Help me to rely on You as my comfort and security.

Help me to identify sin and idols in my life, turn from them, and cling to You.

Help me not to wallow in self condemnation when I sin but rather grieve for my sin, preach the gospel to myself, remember the undeserved grace and mercy You offer, and turn in repentance towards You.

Help me to show grace to my family and friends.

Help me to be an example to others.

Help me to develop spiritual gifts.

Help me to lean on You alone for my salvation.

Help me to remember that any good in me is Your work in me.

Help me to remember the many ways You have sustained me and be confident that You will continue to do so.

Help me to confess my sins to others when it is appropriate.

Help me to pray for others and support them as You will.

Help me to honor my body and use it as an instrument for Your glory.

Protect my mind from anxiety and depression; help me to cast anxieties on You and trust You in my distress.

Help me to hold every thought captive.

Help me to grow in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control.



I also pray for specific things that I would like, but ultimately I ask that God’s will be done. 😊


What are some ways you pray for yourself? Let me know your thoughts! 👇🏻

4 thoughts on “Is Praying for Yourself Selfish?

  1. So many times I’ve heard people say they feel selfish or petty asking God for things. You’ve illustrated that God wants us to turn to him in everything, and that includes our own desires. He will work out whether or not they’re for his ultimate good. Great post!

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  2. I can relate to this. There was a time in my life where I would pray for anyone else about anything, but I would not pray for myself. My thinking at the time was all mixed up. My vision was clouded in regards to how I thought God viewed me. This was the root of why I did not pray for myself. With knowledge and understanding comes freedom, thank God! I have come to realize the truth of what you have shared in this post. God loves us and wants us to come to Him for our needs and desires. Who better to ask but our Father? Thank you for sharing. God bless you

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